This week my hubby and I are celebrating our 2nd wedding anniversary. heart emoticon
We got married TWICE because we had a destination wedding! You better believe we are celebrating both days!
This was from our Dallas, TX wedding at our church --- Fellowship! We had a very small intimate ceremony with a few close friends and our amazing pastor at our Downtown Dallas campus. It was ABSOLUTELY freezing this day. I remember thinking we were crazy for being outside....and those white legs. Goodness. Lol!
This picture was our "formal" wedding in Punta Cana, Dominican Republic (where we came up with the name Dominic for our son...). We LOVED our destination wedding and wouldn't change one thing...except we wish more people could have come. It was STRESS free and PERFECT...and we saved a ton of money! If you're considering it, I highly recommend Destinationweddings.com! They were awesome and made the process super easy!
With that being said, we by NO means know everything about marriage and are very much beginners BUT one thing is for sure, we are blissfully happy and I have had quite a few people say that they would love to find what we have found some day. I don't blame them. I'm kind of jealous of myself sometimes. wink emoticon
Naturally, I've been reflecting on our relationship and why I think we have such an amazing one. I have 3 tips I wanted to share with you all...whether you're still searching for your partner, want to strengthen your marriage, or need some help to re-spark your fire, I hope these inspire you in some way. I'm not an expert but I know these 3 things have contributed to our bliss.
1. LAUGH TOGETHER! Have fun. Don't take life too seriously. You should be able to make fun of yourself and laugh WITH each other on a regular basis. If you aren't spending time together and being vulnerable --ie: letting your hair down and letting your inner-goofy come out, I challenge you to go to something FUN and silly -- go play bowling (the shoes alone are ridiculously funny!), go to an amusement park, ride bikes, workout together, take a cooking class together, do a paint and sip painting class, SOMETHING FUN that is completely not the norm. Your partner should be your best friend...have fun together.
2. RESPECT EACH OTHER! It is a rule of ours not to talk negatively about one another to anyone else. That's not to say we act as if our marriage is perfect although I do think it is pretty darn close but it is to protect one another's character. Let's face it. For most people, love is conditional. For husbands and wives, it should be unconditional...til' death do us part, in sickness and in health, for rich or for poor...you remember how it all goes, right? Your marriage and relationship is sacred and when you allow others to give their opinions about whatever it is, it allows some major damage control to creep in.
***THIS DOES NOT count for anyone that is being abused in any way (physically, emotionally, mentally). You DO need to tell someone and get out of that relationship as quickly as possible.
3. SHARE THE SAME FAITH! I have dated good guys and not so good guys and one thing I couldn't figure out was why none of those relationships really worked. My husband has been married before and knows what a failed marriage looks like. Going into our marriage, we both agreed divorce was not an option and wanted to make sure no matter what, we would work it out. Our saving grace in our relationship when ANY tough thing comes our way is our foundation in our faith. We have faced some of life's biggest hurdles in the 2 short years we have been married (marriage, baby, relocations, moved 5 times, bought a house, renovated a house, sold a house, new jobs, financial struggles, bought/sold cars, etc). It's crazy that we have never once had a major blow out during the last 24 months - disagreements YES, but major fights NO. When God is at the center of your relationship, you always have something to fall back on and find a common ground.
I love this man with all my heart and grow more in love with him every day. I know without a doubt he was put on this earth to be my Prince Charming. We may not have it all together, but together we have everything. heart emoticon
Do you have any great tips for a successful marriage to share?! I'd love to hear them.
Let It Shine,
Heather
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